Do you Believe?!
To Believe in your dreams, to Believe in yourself, to finally Believe in the power of the Universal Energy is the key. Do you remember the times when your kid was an infant and whilst playing you threw him/her up in the air? Your baby laughed! Imagine being flung in the air and the kid laughs….why? Because your child has complete belief that you will hold him when he comes down. That’s what I call ‘BELIEF’. Can you believe in the larger, more powerful universal energy just as your child believed (maybe still believes) in you?! Can you not say- ‘I will do it’ and instead believe that it will be done!
True manifesting has just begun, friends 
- Pooja Khandelwal, Vancouver
Since time immemorial we say- ‘life is a circle’. What if you tweek it to- ‘Life is a spiral’…how does that seem? Life begins in a round and before it can become a circle, you can twist it into a spiral, giving it infinite possibilities, infinite strength and make life infinitely powerful!
Your life gets its power from you. Your power lies in your dreams. So before you begin to make your dreams come true, the question is- what are your dreams? How powerful are they? Are you dreaming big enough?
The first step- write down your dream of life. As you write it, begin to feel what it is doing for you. Is it expansive? Does your dream make you feel as if you are standing on a peak and your life is the scenic beauty?
The art of manifesting begins with focussing on the Dream- if you get that right, you are one step closer to making your dream a reality.
I leave you to ponder on this, before we take our next step. Send in your views and any questions you may have to:
Pooja Khandelwal, live-UR-dream Coach, Vancouver – pooja121@gmail.com
I am conducting a workshop on an Active Meditation technique -a scientifically developed unique method. It is of particular relevance in today’s age as it uses music-n-dance as its base (making it appealing to all of us) and has scientific stages leading to the reduction of stress and anxiety, releasing positive energies from within, rejuvenating the quality of life and leading to self-awareness.
There are stages(music changes at every stage) which scientifically lead one from the mind chakra to the heart and finally to the solarplexes- seat of all energy. Once we allow and let go of ourselves, the process automatically takes us to a stage of peace,awareness and rejuvenation.
Do let me know if you’d like to attend and I shall send you a free invite, with all details
Has it ever happened to you that when you fervently wish something to come true, it does and yet on another occasion when your wish for something it doesn’t? Why? Can everything you dream, come true?? Yes! It is possible that all that we want/ dream comes true……I shall reveal to you the simple method..but not today 
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Happy dreaming
We come across many videos (on youtube etc.) which are touching, sometimes amazing and yet many a times inspiring. Here is one I saw that is extremely powerful and it is my pleasure to share it with you.
To the power called…You.
Happiness…a simple word , but means the world to all of us! Wouldn’t we like to be happy, fulfilled, blissful….continuously rather than in spurts, depending on a situation? Can a small shift in our perspective achieve it?!
Watch this and tell me!
I look forward to your comments.
Do you remember the origin of the wheel?…it was created round so that there is minimum friction and smooth movement forward. Can a square, hexagonal or octagonal wheel give the same smoothness and frictionless movement as a round one? (I trust your response !)
So how round is your wheel of life? How wholesome, balanced and fulfilled are you in all the aspects (spokes) of your life? Would you like to assess what your wheel of life looks like today?…an assessment of our today takes us to a better tomorrow, isn’t it?….
Wishing you a life of fulfillment,
Cheers!
Every coaching process is unique to the coach and also distinct with respect to every client. Consequently, each one of us (coaches) develop tools unique to our style. While I would have many tools in my coaching kit, my power tool, which I would like share today is,
‘INTUITION v/s INTELLECT’
Meaning and significance
Intellect is mind and mind is knowledge. Mind is a mechanism for recording experiences from the outside and then reacting/responding to situations accordingly. Intellect is therefore acquired and not original or unique to a person. However, intellect is of great significance. Working as a scientist, intellect is needed. Working in the corporate world, intellect is needed. Intellect is the beginning. Without a well-developed mind, little success is possible. Great scientists who work thro’ reason, sometimes come to a point where reason does not work, where they wait for a hunch, for some intuitive flash, for a light from the unknown. When we have worked hard with the intellect and success is not becoming, we got to become aware of something beyond. It is our inner self – beyond logic – something that our mind does not ‘know’, yet it is ours as it has come from within our innermost center and therefore is nobody else’s. It is beyond logic. Such intuitive moments where logic, knowledge, rationale fails, can become moments of the greatest blessings.
All great intellectuals have become aware that great discoveries are made not by reason, but by intuition. Let’s take the example of Madame Curie. She was working for three years upon a certain problem and was trying to solve it from many directions. One night, utterly exhausted, she went to sleep and decided, “ Enough is enough! I have wasted three years and it seems to be a futile search. I have to drop it! “ That night, she woke-up in her sleep, went to her desk and wrote the answer. She then fell back to sleep. In the morning, she did not remember the events of the night and wondered how the answer was written! There was nobody else there in the room all night and the answer lay in front, that too in her own handwriting. Then as if like a dream, the events flashed. It meant that she had reached the conclusion through another door, which was not reason. It was INTUITION.Intellect, as I said earlier, is the mind. It is taught, it is acquired, it is the knowable. Since it is not inborn it is not unique to us. It is not the real us.Intuition functions when reason, knowledge has been exhausted. Intuition is beyond logic. Intuition is the unknowable. It is our deepest self. It is unique to everyone of us and is at the deepest level of our consciousness.Literally, the term ‘intuition’ means= ‘in’ + ’tuition’. ‘Tuition’ comes from the word ‘tutor’ or ‘to teach’. Thus, intuition is self-teaching.
Importance of intuition v/s intellect in Coaching
In my definition, Coaching is… partnering with people in an empowering and thought-provoking process to enthuse them (people) towards maximum personal and professional potential.
‘Empty mind is a devil’s workshop’- is a famous quote.But I say, ‘Mind is the devil’s workshop!’ Can the mind ever be empty? If we are to make a movie of the thoughts that come to our mind in a minute, the movie would be nothing but disconnected chaotic gibberish!!Yes, what the famous quote could mean is that sitting idle is devilish as it makes the mind move on the double!Activity distracts the mind, but doesn’t quieten. The purpose of the mind is to create problems, troubles. It can complicate anything, but cannot give solutions.It is only in tremendous silence and deep serenity can one become aware of his/her true self.That is why in coaching ‘Active Listening’ is given paramount importance.In my understanding, ‘Active Listening’ is quietening the mind and connecting to the client in its entirety. It means to be here in the now without any thought, alert and aware, to listen in deep receptivity. This needs a still mind, without judgments, without opinions.
Our self (coach) connects to the clients self, feelings, understanding, empathizing with all that is verbal and non-verbal. It is this, the intuition, the deep consciousness that is to be awakened to the client’s presence. As Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. put it ‘Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.’ The first step here is our intuition. Take the first plunge in full trust of our deep self. It is our intuition that gives the first ray of direction. The journey that follows is the questioning which is formed by the intellect. Successful coaching takes place through powerful questioning.
As a coach the first step is to be aware of our intuition then through the intellect we can connect to the client’s deep self and help, facilitate, empower him to realize his true potential. Thus, intuition gives the direction and intellect is the journey. No journey can happen if we don’t know the direction to take.
From the client’s point of view, all that fills his mind should be spilled out. When the mind center is empty, then will the client open his deeper being. It is when his intuition is appealed to, when something within him ‘clicks’, then he will be propelled to action and to realize his dreams.
In conclusion, I believe, intellect is indispensable. But all intellect can lead the coaching process to a dead end. Meaningful transformation comes from the deepest level. It is only through the intuition of a coach that transformational changes take place bringing awareness to the client of his true potential. Finally, the client’s awareness of his true self and his actions to realize his true potential, make coaching a meaningful process.
How to develop INTUITION
Since intuition is simply ‘awareness to an inner belief system’, deep silences give you the opportunity to look inwards, understand and be in-touch with your intuitive self. What would further help is to be cleansed of all that prevents our energy from flowing freely between our chakras. Experts believe, so long as you can attain the peace and silence needed to hear your inner voice, you can be intuitive. The three important ingredients to being intuitive are- calmness, positivity and receptiveness. Intuition is a feeling or a conscious thought that comes into the mind for a moment. If you believe and connect, you are intuitive. Pick up the messages you get and train yourself to understand. Value it rather than think about it. Logic interferes- it may not allow you to be intuitive.
Thus, each one of us can develop this system of internal messaging (intuition) emanating from a source that seems to know all. Call it accumulated wisdom of our soul over many births or as Dr. Deepak Chopra would define it as a ‘collective matrix of thought’ or the ‘psychosis of the collective mind’.
Reflection
- Reflect on the times you feel a prickly sensation at the back of your neck and turn around to see someone looking intently at you.
- Have you experienced times when you think of a long lost friend and she calls out of the blue or bumps into you somewhere?
If we are looking for a change in our life, it got to be lasting and consistent. For a smoker who wants to change his habit, just quitting for a day, a couple of days or even a few weeks, isn’t good enough. The change must be permanent. How does one do that?
1. Raise your standards- Write down all the things that you will no longer accept in your life. A habit, a life-style even a thought- all the things that you will no longer tolerate. Also pen down all that you have inspired of becoming.
2. Change your limiting beliefs- If standards are raised but you don’t really believe you can meet them, you’ve already sabotaged yourself. Our beliefs are like unquestioned commands, telling us what’s possible what we can do and how things are. Beliefs shape every action, every thought and every feeling that we experience. Thus changing our belief system is central to making a real and lasting change in our lives. It is vital to have a ‘sense of certainity’ that we can and will meet the new standards, before we actually do!
How to change a BELIEF?
All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs.
There are three types of beliefs:-
· Opinion- This is what we feel relatively certain about but are open to discussion.
· Belief- We have strong emotions attached to the opinion, which is supported by a large reference base. Here we have a strong level of certainity and are closed to new inputs.
· Conviction- Eclipses a belief where you not only have strong emotions but are closed to it being questioned.
Two simple steps that can begin the process of changing our belief:-
· Step I- Associate massive pain to the old beliefs and tremendous pleasure to the idea of adopting a new, empowering one.
· Step II- Create a doubt. Question what we have believed in so far. Whenever we believe in something, we don’t question it. If questioning of a belief has started, the ice has begun to melt.
3. Change your strategy- Once you have set your standards and believe in them, it is very likely that you will find the way to achieve it.
Some guidelines to making strategies are:-
· Find a role model- Think of someone who has been able to achieve what you are aiming for. What and how has he been able to affect the change?
· Pain-pleasure syndrome- This means attach pain to what you want to change an a lot of pleasure to the new change.
In today’s world of rapid change and ever expanding opportunities, people are realizing that many of their dreams and goals which were once an impossibility are now an attainable reality and therefore are willing to take that step to achieve them. A coach has a large set of skills and techniques to support the client in this endeavour. Clients are taking out the time and resources to invest in themselves through the services of a coach, who facilitates this everlasting empowering change and supports the client in realizing his dreams and goals .
What are values? Why are they important? What are the consequences of ignoring or compromising them? How can I identify mine? Read on and find out!
What are values and why are they important?
A high proportion of the people are aware that something is wrong, that something could be better in their lives- that’s why they begin coaching – but they aren’t quite sure what is wrong, what’s missing. Most of the time it is because they are simply unclear about what is most important to them.
Infact, this could be the definition of values – that which is most important to us. It incorporates moral values, our ideas of what is right and wrong, our principles and standards. It also includes our individual values. For me it includes things such as making a difference, empowering others, creativity, communication, honesty, straightforwardness and I know that I feel best when I’m giving these values their full expression in my life. So that’s why an awareness of our values is important. Because when we are aware of them we can give them expression, and giving them expression is about expressing who we really are.
What are the consequences of ignoring or compromising values?
Well, what do you think? If giving space to our values and allowing their expression brings us energy, vitality, a sense of being fully alive – what do you think happens if you lack clarity about your values, if you ignore or compromise them? A lack of direction and purpose, feelings of discomfort, an awareness that something’s not quite right, dissatisfaction, discontent, a certain restlessness and need to know / to do something different although you don’t know what. This is a high price to pay, although in virtually any workplace you can see people paying that price every day as they do work that they hate, but not knowing what else to do. The good news however is that you can do something about this, and the best starting point is to get in touch with your own values.
How to get in touch with your own values?
There are many questions and exercises that you can use to get in touch with your values.
Some questions to get you started:
- What do you consider to be the greatest achievement of your life? Why?
- When have you taken the strongest stand in your life? What were you standing for?
- Who is your role model? What qualities of the person do you admire?
- Recall times when you’ve been at your most creative – whether creating things, an event, a product, whatever.
- Recall the times in your life that you’ve been most committed – when you were deeply involved in something, determined to persist despite everything.
- Recall times when you were most decisive – when you knew exactly what to do, when you knew you were right and you acted on that, even in the face of the doubts and objections of others.
- Remember a time when everyone said you couldn’t do something, but you knew you could and did it anyway. What was it? How did it feel doing it – during and after?
- Remember times when you were so absorbed in what you were doing that you hardly noticed the time. What were you doing?
- What do you feel is the greatest accomplishment of your life and why?
- What is the most exciting thing you’ve ever done? And why was it so exciting?
- What is the strongest stand you’ve ever taken in your life? What were you standing for and why?
Here is an interesting exercise-
Imagine your own funeral.
Although not to everybody’s taste, this is a very powerful exercise which offers the quickest route to get in touch with your core values. If it’s something you really don’t want to do, just move on to the “Other questions you can ask” further down the page. I’ve seen a number of versions of this particular exercise but have chosen to use Stephen Covey’s here, from his book “The seven habits of highly effective people“:
“Clear your mind of everything except what you will read and what I will invite you to do. Just focus with me and really open your mind.
In your mind’s eye, see yourself going to the funeral of a loved one. Picture yourself driving to the funeral parlour or chapel, parking the car and getting out. As you walk inside the building, you notice the flowers, the soft organ music. You see the faces of friends and family you pass along the way. You feel the shared sorrow of losing, the joy of having known, that radiates from the hearts of the people there.
As you walk down to the front of the room and look inside the coffin, you suddenly come face to face with yourself. This is your funeral, three years from today. All these people have come to honour you, to express feelings of love and appreciation for your life.
As you take a seat and wait for the services to begin, you look at the program in your hand. There are to be four speakers. The first is from your family, immediate and also extended – children, brothers, sisters, nephews, nieces, aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents who have come from all over the country to attend. The second speaker is one of your friends, someone who can give a sense of what you were as a person. The third speaker is from your work or profession. And the fourth is from your church or some community organisation where you’ve been involved in service.
Now think deeply. What would you like each of these speakers to say about you and your life? What kind of wife, mother, daughter would you like their words to reflect? What kind of sister, cousin, niece, or aunt? What kind of friend? What kind of work colleague?
What character would you like them to have seen in you? What contributions, what achievements would you want them to remember? Look carefully at the people around you. What difference would you like to have made in their lives?
All these questions point to points in your life where you’ve been expressing those things which are most important to you. Review your answers to these questions and look to see which of these qualities are being expressed in your life now, and which are not. For those which are not getting sufficient (if any) expression, ask yourself how your life would be different if you were expressing them. What could you do to bring them in and give them space? How would you feel differently if you did that? What would you do differently? The answers to these questions point towards the next steps in your life, should you choose to take them.
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